Yesterday was a celebration for two of us. It was our Tenth Anniversary. Gary and I started our journey together back in Portland, Oregon. We are a same sex couple.
We now live in the San Francisco bay area. We have seen an initiative narrowly pass to add a constitutional amendment to the California state constitution to ban couples like us from getting married.
We are being discriminated against simply because of who we love and because we want to say “I do”. On the level playing field of a democratic government where all citizens should be granted the same rights, the bigotry seeded by religious fundamentalism has been legalized. No matter how it is positioned or packaged–it is Hate put into law.
This is a set back for our cause but the fight will continue until full civil rights are realized for the LGBT community. Nothing less is acceptable or right.
As Gary and I shared a wonderful and romantic dinner last night, my thoughts ran over the life we have built over these many years. It has been a life that has been built day by day, shared and earned, through hard and wonderful times. Our love has deepened for each other and our friendship strengthened. We are happy. What we have is beautiful and good.
We do not need society’s acceptance to tell us that our relationship is real or valid. We know it is and that is the only validity we need.
However, we have endeavor to have access to all equal rights under the law as every other citizen. As we reach this milestone in our relationship, I hope that one day with family and friends gathered around, that Gary and I will be able to marry legal and free without the fear of it being taken away.
Happy Anniversary, Gary! One day we will be husbands.