I am with the most important person in my life celebrating his birthday today. Yesterday, we started by going to the California coast to Half Moon Bay and Pacifica. It was just the two of us. That is what he wanted. Gary had fun Friday night playing pool with his buddies at the bar called Moby Dick in the Castro District in San Francisco.
As we celebrate another birthday milestone of this man, I think about all the wonderful things about him. One of the things that attracted me to him besides his obvious handsomeness is his intelligence. Gary is a student of the universe forever curious about what is out there and forever learning.
He teaches High School Chemistry. He loves the subject matter and it is conveyed through his teaching. He is not one of those touchy feely teachers but he truly engages his students in the learning process no matter what their background is to exercise their mind and attain knowledge. Students are drawn to him because he cares about his subject matter and about teaching.
He approaches everything like a scientist whether it is his workout routine or it is cooking. Speaking of his cooking, this is where Gary becomes an artist. He loves to cook and he becomes creative in it. I believe that he would be a chef in another life if he could. I have been a lucky recipient of his wonderful meals.
He loves to play pool and is serious about it. He wants to win. He brags when he wins games especially against some of our friends. You know who you are. He also loves to play Poker. He truly does not play these games to be social. He plays to compete and win.
He cares deeply about the world we live in and contributes to causes to avert poverty and disease. We both share in this effort. He even has helped out some less fortunate individuals in our neighborhood regularly. He has a deep and caring heart in these matters.
This passion also makes him vocal and critical of our existing government and social systems that he views as unfair and unjust. He does not hold anything back when he expresses his opinion. He does not blindly wave the flag. He does not think the present system is infallible and thinks if changes need to be made, they should be made. Nothing is sacred if it can be improved for the betterment of the society.
He is deeply spiritual. He may not subscribe to a particular religion. However, this man has studied theology and explored religion unlike most people. He does not tolerate hypocrisy and does not tolerate religious organizations that steamroll their doctrines down people’s throat. However, he is man that has been on a journey of understanding about the purpose of life – a good man.
Gary lost his mom when he was really young to cancer. Gary is also a cancer survivor. He never really had an engaged father in his life. He had to grow up real fast and basically take care of himself. There is independence about him that he has carried with him to this day.
His true circle of friends is small. Being the handsome guy he is, he attracts a lot of attention, but he really does not remember most of the people who talks to him. It takes a lot to impress him. I have to remind him about people’s names a lot. That is when I know they did not make an impression on him.
Gary can be really blunt and sharp with people around him. Ask some of our friends.
However, he is the most loving and kind guy when it comes to me. Over the past 10 years of our relationship, this guy of mine has been a devoted partner who has always been there. There have been ups and downs but the meter has always been on overall Happy. I realized that even more today.
Gary, Happy Birthday! I am looking forward to another wonderful year with you, baby.