I am Happy to be Their Father


A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.  ~Author Unknown

Nothing fills my heart more than the memories of being surrounded by my 3 daughters and 1 son on family outings, Christmases, Disney trips,  dinners, movies, every day routines, and all that comes with being a dad.

I remember each of their births like it was yesterday. I remember the lump in my throat realizing that these little people where looking to me to make sure they were taken care of and loved.

Today is Father’s Day.

 Three of my children are in early adulthood and have moved out of home. My son is in college. My youngest is entering her senior year of high school. Their mom and I are divorced.

Oh yeah, the reason I divorced a few years ago, was that I came out as a gay man. 

One thing did not change when I got divorced. I was still Dad.  The divorce was amicable but it was difficult.  It had the added complexity of my coming out.  Our family was a deeply religious family so it had other layers of challenges.

There were several valleys to walk through along the way.  It took faith. There has been much progress that was possible because there was much love.  I have had the continued blessing of being involved in my children’s life. They have embraced me and I have have been able to still be their Dad.

Today, I am grateful.  What an honor it is to be a Dad.  What a privilege.  Since the divorce, I was not able to live day in and and day out in my children’s home. However, I found ways to make the time I spent with them full of quality. I truly valued their time with me.


Fathers, who live with your children, please enjoy every precious moment with them. You are so fortunate to see them grow up right there before you.

Fathers, like me, continue to be a part of their lives. They have to know by your actions that you did not divorce them.  

So my mind and heart are filled with the laughter of my babies. I will hear from them today.  I will hear the word “Dad.”

To my children,  what makes this day special is that  I am HAPPY to be their Father.

 

Below are snapshots are pictures of same sex couple dads I posted to celebrate Pride month. Happy Pride!

 

Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later… that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important: a Protector, who would keep a lid on all the chaotic and catastrophic possibilities of life.  ~Tom Wolfe, The Bonfire of the Vanities

2 thoughts on “I am Happy to be Their Father

  1. That was a touching post. Thank you. Your story is very similar to mine. I have 2 daughters, and am divorced. I am suffering today because my ex wife has said that my children will not be allowed to see me without supervision, as she feels my lifestyle is “dangerous” to them, plus the fact I no longer share her religious beliefs, at least her brand of faith. I am a bisexual, as well, although I have not stated that to her.

  2. Happy Belated Father’s day! With so many men choosing not to be a part of their children’s lives, it’s good to hear from a father who prides in it. I had a great father too who was always there for me and was my hero. Unfortunately, I lost him 7 years ago. But, I was blessed to have him in my life as I know your children are blessed to have you.

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