A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. ~Author Unknown
Nothing fills my heart more than the memories of being surrounded by my 3 daughters and 1 son on family outings, Christmases, Disney trips, dinners, movies, every day routines, and all that comes with being a dad.
I remember each of their births like it was yesterday. I remember the lump in my throat realizing that these little people where looking to me to make sure they were taken care of and loved.
Today is Father’s Day.
Three of my children are in early adulthood and have moved out of home. My son is in college. My youngest is entering her senior year of high school. Their mom and I are divorced.
Oh yeah, the reason I divorced a few years ago, was that I came out as a gay man.
One thing did not change when I got divorced. I was still Dad. The divorce was amicable but it was difficult. It had the added complexity of my coming out. Our family was a deeply religious family so it had other layers of challenges.
There were several valleys to walk through along the way. It took faith. There has been much progress that was possible because there was much love. I have had the continued blessing of being involved in my children’s life. They have embraced me and I have have been able to still be their Dad.
Today, I am grateful. What an honor it is to be a Dad. What a privilege. Since the divorce, I was not able to live day in and and day out in my children’s home. However, I found ways to make the time I spent with them full of quality. I truly valued their time with me.
Fathers, who live with your children, please enjoy every precious moment with them. You are so fortunate to see them grow up right there before you.
Fathers, like me, continue to be a part of their lives. They have to know by your actions that you did not divorce them.
So my mind and heart are filled with the laughter of my babies. I will hear from them today. I will hear the word “Dad.”
To my children, what makes this day special is that I am HAPPY to be their Father.
Below are snapshots are pictures of same sex couple dads I posted to celebrate Pride month. Happy Pride!