Last night I went to a workshop conducted by one of my dear friends, Soniyah Singh, of Finding Bliss ( www. finding-bliss.com). She is a matchmaker for gay men. I actually attended more out of obligation to her as a friend and not really with the intent of getting anything out of it. I was not going with a listening heart to say the least. I went to support her with my physical presence but not with my open heart .
I am not sure if cynical is the word I want to use, but lately, I have not had the best of luck with having a steady dating relationship. I was just not in the mood in a word. However, there were familiar faces so that gave me some strength.
It was the third workshop in the series and it was the only one I attended. It focused on maintaining relationships. Soniyah took us through exercises like recognizing our love language. This means recognizing how we perceive receiving love and how others do it too. Sometimes how we do it does not mean our partner uses those same things. For example, for some people they perceive love when they get a lot of affection and touch from others. Others prefer praise and verbal affirmation. Others need more quality time. Others prefer gifts as an indication of love.
The majority of break ups statistically happen because couples slowly stop appreciating each other and not showing that appreciation for each other regularly. That is when emotional distance comes in and couples drift.
There was discussion on how to handle conflict, spend time together, and other topics that were really thought provoking. Even though the topics were centered on maintaining relationships, the theme of living in your truth resonated with me.
I believe that if one is searching for a partner , boyfriend or spouse, it is integral that you stay true to who you are yourself. Sure you may have to compromise some of the little things in order for the two of you to blend into a relationship where there is a union, but you do not lose yourself in it.
There are certain things that are very important to who I am and what makes me who I am. I think that we have to come into a potential relationship with our eyes wide open following our already open heart, really making sure that the relationship simply enhances who we are or brings out the best in us. We also have this love for the other person and our desire is to help them in their path to happiness. It is a journey you go on together.
So I left the workshop, thinking I am glad Soniyah forced me to come. It gave me some answers I needed.
Thank goodness for my DVR, though. I was able to record my favorite TV shows and still watch them 😛
- Finding your bliss (kiplimochemirmir.wordpress.com)
- Open Your Heart (3precocious3lotus3.wordpress.com)
- The Locked Heart (catherinelavender.com)
- Relationship Navigation: The Truth and Nothing but the Truth? (tantrachick.wordpress.com)
- Find your bliss on social media (sciencetext.com)
- Yoga and Falling in Love: Do They Mix? (elephantjournal.com)
- Why do we stay? (lovechapters.net)
- How Is Your Love Defined? (psychcentral.com)
- Hearts (chief187.blogspot.com)
- Finding Your Bliss After Divorce (thesmartdivorce.com)
- Why Can’t We Feel That We Are Loved? (itakeoffthemask.com)
- The Post Break Up Love Letter (wonkawilly.wordpress.com)
- Open Your Heart! 8 Incredible Health Benefits of Love (organicauthority.com)
- 20 Ways to Make a Healthy Relationship Out of a Crappy One (miguelinbelgium.wordpress.com)
- The Real Key to Good Health (psychologytoday.com)
- The Limits of Love (nofullstops.com)
- Be ‘Open’ to Receiving Love… (matthewkelleherbpd.wordpress.com)
- To be happy, one must find one’s bliss!-Gloria Vanderbilt (iamallatwitteraboutlife.blogspot.com)
- Welcome to My Bliss (allthingsfadra.com)
- Bliss List #4 and Photo Friday (poeticaperture.com)
- Finding Your Bliss and Your Purpose (openingoureyes.net)
- Alan Bond says he’s lost ‘beautiful wife’ after finding Diana Bliss dead in swimming pool of their mansion (dailymail.co.uk)
- Photo Friday: Bliss List #2 (poeticaperture.com)
- Bliss, Interrupted (liveyourbliss.wordpress.com)
- life in The Big Picture (nanakoosasplace.wordpress.com)
been reading your blogs for years really like them 🙂
Very interesting… I’m in a 10+ year relationship and I’m pretty sure it’s for life. I used to be fiercely independent, which actually meant a bit selfish… In the end if you can balance honesty, respect and empathy, it’s not too hard to make things work.
Thanks for your insightful comments. Congrats on your thriving relationship. Much happiness!
Thank you, Joshua. I am glad that you you have found them interesting.
JP, wow I’m glad you came too and got some thoughts stirring up in your big beautiful heart! Thank you for sharing them.
Sending you gratitude and love!
Thank you for having me there, Soniyah. You are inspiring. You are a dear friend that understand me and tolerates me. I love you more than you know.